VANBRUUN Guide
Common mistakes when proposing
How do you propose to your partner? The most common mistakes when proposing? We understand the stress and excitement that can build as you prepare to ask the big question. In this guide, we will guide you through the most common mistakes and how to avoid them.
1. Proposing without a ring
Involving your partner in choosing the ring can be both fun and thoughtful, especially since it is a ring meant to last a lifetime. However, it is also considered part of the gesture that you are the one who selects the one that you believe suits your partner. If you want your partner to be part of the decision, there are plenty of options. One idea is to purchase the diamond and attach it to a diamond holder that functions like a ring. Alternatively, you can borrow a mockup ring from us, allowing you to place a physical ring on their finger. Discover the possibilities of borrowing a ring to propose with here. After the proposal, you can then design or select a ring together.
2. Spoiling the surprise
It is natural to be excited about a significant event like a proposal and eager to share the news with everyone. However, it is best to be cautious about discussing it too much with friends and family, as it can be challenging to keep a secret. In other words, holding it between the two of you can create a special and intimate moment before sharing it with the world.
3. Making it impersonal
It’s easy to get stuck in clichés about how it should be and not what is best for your significant other. Red roses, dinner, and champagne are perhaps the ultimate proposal for some, while disastrous for others. Figure out what your partner prefers, perhaps it is not always the most extravagant that is the best option.
4. Proposing in front of an audience
While some people thrive in the spotlight, others may prefer a more private setting. Proposing in front of an audience can be exciting, but it is not always the right choice. Your partner might feel more comfortable at home, in an intimate environment where it is just the two of you. However, they might also love the idea of sharing it with friends and family. You know your partner best - personalize the moment for them.
5. Ignoring the right moment
Even if it is all planned and you have all the details figured out it is sometimes just not the right moment. Therefore, it is important to think and rather wait for the perfect moment, as you hopefully will tell this story for years to come. It is important to emphasize that the feeling of being nervous is part of the moment. Therefore being nervous is not a reason for it to be considered as the wrong time.
6. Proposing during the holidays
It might feel extra special to propose on Christmas, New Year’s Eve, or your partner’s birthday. However, these are already days of celebration. Choose a day that becomes uniquely yours, a day where the focus is entirely on the two of you. After all, who does not love another reason to celebrate?